Without Naam - Final Article

Guru Sahib gives us many quotes from Guru Granth Sahib Jee on how our lives would be without the name of the Lord.

ਵਿਣੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਨਾਹੀ ਸਾਬਾਿਸ ॥੩॥੩੨॥
vin naavai naahee saabaas
Without the Name, no one is approved. 332

Guru Nanak Dev Jee has made it clear in this quote without the name of the Lord, Vahiguroo, no one will be approved, no matter how hard one tries, one can try anything under the Sun if the breath is not occupied by the name of the Lord one will not be approved in the court of the Lord. Even the Rehit we keep will not be approved if it is not accompanied by each breath of Naam, every physical Rehit is kept to protect aatmic (spiritual) Rehit, if there is no spiritual substance in one then the physical Rehit becomes Pakhand (hypocrisy). If the Sevaa we do is not accompanied by the name of the Lord then the Sevaa will also not be approved by Akaal Purakh Vahiguroo. The reason for this is when our breath is accompanied by the mantraa Vahiguroo then everything we do is blessed by God and we are Neemaane (humble) to Gods will. If our breath is not occupied by the name then every karam (deed) we do is done through self-ego, as it is done through a mind wandering through thought and desire, and not a mind full of love for the Lord, which means love for his creation.

ਮਨਮੁਖ ਗੁਣ ਤੈ ਬਾਹਰੇ ਬਿਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਮਰਦੇ ਝੂਿਰ ॥੨॥
munumukh gun thai baahurae bin naavai murudhae jhoor
The self-willed manmukhs are totally without virtue. Without the Name, they die in frustration.

Guru Sahib is saying in this Shabad that virtue will only come through Athai Pehar Naam Abhiyaas, if one does not meditate one will gain no virtue and one will suffer through personal wanting and desire, frustration will kill them in the end, as they still remain empty of Spiritual wisdom and bliss, and have gained no honor in the World. Their mind will not let them settle, as they have not experienced the beauty of contentment through Naam.

ਜਤੁ ਸਤੁ ਸੰਜਮੁ ਨਾਮੁ ਹੈ ਵਿਣੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਿਨਰਮਲੁ ਨ ਹੋਇ ॥
juth suth sunjum naam hai vin naavai nirumul n hoe
The Naam, the Name of the Lord, is abstinence, truthfulness, and self-restraint. Without the Name, no one becomes pure.

Guru Sahib is saying in this Shabad no one will be pure without the name of the Lord, as Naam is the only substance in which will purify this filthy mind suffering through many life times. This Naam can only be given by Guru Sahib and only blessed ones receive it, through receiving this Naam they realize its great value and hold it close to their Heart, they never let go, through this they become pure.

ਵਿਣੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਸਭ ਡੁਮਣੀ ਦੂਜੈ ਭਾਇ ਖੁਆਇ ॥
vin naavai subh ddumunee dhoojai bhaae khuaae
Without the Name, all are miserable. In the love of duality, they are ruined.

Guru Jee is saying here all are miserable without the Name, why are people miserable without the name? They look perfectly happy when we see them. Guru Sahib says in Gurbaanee, Satgur Taakleeaa Hamaaraa Paapee Pardaa, this means nobody can see the negative state of our mind, as the Guru has blessed us and covered it with skin. If people really knew what we were thinking whilst being happy and jolly on the outside nobody would ever speak to us, as most of the time we are full of negative emotions, but we always seem to hide them in amongst people. Most people in the world feel miserable and down at times, only the Gurmukhs who Jap Naam with every breath do not realize what the words 'miserable' and 'down' mean, as they very rarely experience negative emotions, they are always high on Naam.

ਬਿਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਠਉਰੁ ਨ ਪਾਇਨੀ ਜਮਪੁਿਰ ਦੂਖ ਸਹਾਿਹ ॥੩॥
bin naavai thour n paaeinee jumupur dhookh sehaahi
Without the Name, they find no place of rest. In the City of Death, they suffer in agony. 3

Guru Jee is saying those who do not Jap Naam Athai Pehar (24/7) will find no place of rest, even their soul will suffer after physical death, they will be beaten by the messenger of death and their soul will suffer in the cycle of reincarnation until Guru Sahib blesses us with the key of Human life and Naam.

ਨਾਮੁ ਮਿਲੈ ਮਨੁ ਿਤ੍ਰਪਤੀਐ ਿਬਨੁ ਨਾਮੈ ਿਧ੍ਰਗੁ ਜੀਵਾਸੁ ॥
naam milai mun thriputheeai bin naamai dhrig jeevaas
Receiving the Naam, the mind is satisfied; without the Naam, life is cursed.

ਬਿਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਜੀਵਣੁ ਨਾ ਥੀਐ ਮੇਰੇ ਸਿਤਗੁਰ ਨਾਮੁ ਿਦ੍ਰੜਾਇ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥
bin naavai jeevun naa theeai maerae sathigur naam dhrirraae
Without Your Name, my life does not even exist. My True Guru has implanted the Naam within me. 1Pause

This is a beautiful Shabad by Guru Raamdaas Jee, both these lines are from one Shabad. This Shabad goes on to say this priceless jewel is only kept in the palms of Guru Sahib if we are fortunate he will bless us with loving devotion of Naam.

Guru Sahib says in the top line without Naam my life is cursed, there is no satisfaction for mind, body or soul without Naam, everything we do or touch will also be cursed, as the mind is very powerful and the energy of negativity has the power to spread in amongst anything and everything, on the other hand if we do deeds through the power of Naam everyone we come in to contact with will be blessed and find peace through the power of Guru Sahib and a positive mind. The mind is the Universe we have not recognized our innerself.

In the second line Guru Jee goes on to say without Naam my life does not exist, life is not even worth living without Naam, as this mind is controlled by evil without Naam, Kaam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh, Ahankaar, Lust, Anger, Greed, Attachment and Ego. Without Naam these powerful Warriors will run the show, our body and mind will become their Puppets. We have not realized our inner-self therefore we do not exist, we only exist when our mind is blessed with divine knowledge to instruct the mind in to the path of Guru Sahibs lotus charan (feet) through the powerful substance of Naam.

ਨਦਰਿ ਕਰੇ ਸਚੁ ਪਾਈਐ ਿਬਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਿਕਆ ਸਾਕੁ ॥੫॥
nudhar kurae such paaeeai bin naavai kiaa saak
When the Lord bestows His Glance of Grace, we obtain the True Name. Without the Name, who are our relatives? 5

In this Shabad Guru Sahib says we will only be blessed with Naam when Guru Sahib bestows his glance of grace, Guru Sahib then goes on to say without Naam who are our relatives. Guru Sahib is saying here if we have not made best friends with the great Lord who created the Universe how can we call people our relatives, friends and family, as all is false without God, as soon as somebody says something wrong or disagrees with us or doesn’t help us in need these relationships will fall like a weak pile of bricks. Without Naam there is no love, one will only know how to love and keep relationships when one falls in love with our Father Vahiguroo, this is when one understands the true meaning of love without a desire or condition.

ਗੁਰੂ ਜਿਨਾ ਕਾ ਅੰਧੁਲਾ ਚੇਲੇ ਨਾਹੀ ਠਾਉ ॥
guroo jinaa kaa andhulaa chaelae naahee thaao
Those chaylaas, those devotees, whose spiritual teacher is blind, shall not find their place of rest.

ਬਿਨੁ ਸਿਤਗੁਰ ਨਾਉ ਨ ਪਾਈਐ ਿਬਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਿਕਆ ਸੁਆਉ ॥
bin sathigur naao n paaeeai bin naavai kiaa suaao
Without the True Guru, the Name is not obtained. Without the Name, what is the use of it all?

In this Shabad Guru Sahib talks about those students who search for a spiritual teacher, Guru Sahib says their teacher is blind without divine-knowledge, so how will he enlighten you? Only Guru Sahib, Satguru, is pure, we can not be sure of any human being to be pure, only God is pure this is why Guru Sahib has united us with Shabad and a direct link to God through the mantraa of Naam Vahiguroo. All the Bhagats and Patts were one to one with God, this is why their teachings were compiled in Guru Granth Sahib Jee. Daas personally thinks there is not a purer faith on Earth and never will be.

ਬਿਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਦੁਖੁ ਦੇਹੁਰੀ ਿਜਉ ਕਲਰ ਕੀ ਭੀਿਤ ॥
bin naavai dhukh dhaehuree jio kulur kee bheeth
Without the Name, the body suffers in pain; it crumbles like a wall of sand.

Guru Sahib says the body crumbles like a wall of Sand and suffers in pain. Without Naam our whole life is not worth living we will never be happy, content or in peace, we will always suffer in greed and selfishness, we will not be respected or loved by anyone, as everyone looks after number 1 in this World, we will have know one to turn to in hard times if we do find someone we will have to repay them with the favor, and life goes on and on and on in a struggle for survival until the body falls like a wall of Sand.

ਬਿਨੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਧਨੁ ਬਾਿਦ ਹੈ ਭੂਲੋ ਮਾਰਿਗ ਆਿਥ ॥
bin naavai dhun baadh hai bhoolo maarag aath
Without the Name, wealth is useless; deceived by wealth, they have lost their way.

Guru Jee says in this Shabad crying out "mine mine!" for wealth they have departed but their body, family and friends did not go with them. Guru Sahib says deceived by wealth they have lost their way. We always want more and more we will never be satisfied or content with what we have, as desire and greed always makes us strive for more, this causes us to be unhappy and we loose all inner peace. Guru Sahib says in Gurbaanee be as rich as you want but stay content, never want more, and be detached from all you have, in this way you will find true peace and contentment. Guru Sahib says the true wealth is the wealth of Naam, this is only given to us by Guru Sahib after taking Amrit and the practice of Rehit. This wealth will be carried across after death, this wealth will naturally share itself in to the Universe through our being, this wealth will not decrease, burn, get wet or die, this wealth will find us peace, respect and honor, this wealth will introduce us to love and many more virtues, this wealth is a treasure which we cannot stop talking about.

ਬਿਨੁ ਹਿਰ ਨਾਮ ਨ ਛੁਟੀਐ ਗੁਰਮਿਤ ਿਮਲੈ ਿਮਲਾਇ ॥੭॥
bin har naam n shutteeai gurumath milai milaae
Without the Name of the Lord, no one can be saved. Through the Guru's Teachings, we are united in His Union. 7

In the above Shabad Guru Sahib says without Naam no one can be liberated or saved, only Naam will liberate the soul and mind nothing else, we can search all we want for many lifetimes but in the end we will all take Amrit in this human life and we will all be saved through the blessings of Guru Sahibs devotional worship and Naam. Only the Gurus teachings will unite us with God, no other teaching will get us anywhere near, as mentioned above Guru Sahib has created a direct link between servant and master through Shabad.

ਨਾਮ ਬਿਹੂਨਾ ਤਨੁ ਮਨੁ ਹੀਨਾ ਜਲ ਿਬਨੁ ਮਛੁਲੀ ਿਜਉ ਮਰੈ ॥
naam bihoonaa thun mun heenaa jul bin mushulee jio murai
Without the Naam, the Name of the Lord, the body and mind are empty; like fish out of water, they die.

Guru Sahib is clearing us from all doubt in this Shabad, just like a Fish will die out of Water, Guru Sahib says the Gurmukh will die without Naam, the body and mind are empty, as they have to search for things to do to occupy this filthy mind, if this mind is not occupied by the love of Naam it will be occupied by evil thoughts which in turn will cause evil actions.

Why are we wasting time in worldly affairs and spending less time Japping Naam, as all worldly affairs are accomplished with great honor and peace through every breath of Naam Abhiyaas, this is the command of our Guru and it should not be ignored, just as we always try to be punctual in all worldly affairs we should be punctual with reciting the Name of the Lord this should reside with in us with every breath. If we do not do this it is like turning our back towards our Guru.

When we do something wrong or we make a mistake in our physical Rehit we go to the Panj for forgiveness, Guru Sahibs Hukum is Athai Pehar Naam Abhiyaas, do we meditate with every breath? Lets all ask ourselves this question if not shouldn’t we be presenting ourselves to the Panj for a solution. There is no solution, the solution is effort we are not willing to put the effort in but we all want to look like Gurmukhs on the outside. The true Gurmukh will be pure inside and outside.

The whole of Gurbaanee is full of Shabads in which tell us what will happen to us WITHOUT NAAM.

Daas would like to confirm this will be the final post on 'Gupt Wannabe Naam Abhiyaasee Blog', Daas has very much enjoyed doing this Sevaa blessed by Guru Sahib Jee, this Sevaa could not have been accomplished without the blessings of Guru Jee.

The message Daas was trying to get across to the Sangat whilst doing this Sevaa was, without Amrit, Rehit, Naam and the teachings from Guru Granth Sahib Jee one cannot become pure, ones soul will not be liberated if one does not put Gurbaanee into practice, only through the Shabad of Vahiguroo will this polluted mind be purified.

There is only one reason why this Sevaa ends here and that is, Daas would like to be selfish and concentrate on personal Jeevan of fully concentrated Naam and Gurbaanee Abhiyaas only if Guru Sahib permits, we cannot achieve anything in life without Guru Sahibs blessings.

If anybody has any questions or needs any advice in personal Jeevan, please take time out to e-mail this Maahaa Moorakh on gupt_abhiyaas@hotmail.com, Daas will try and answer the questions only through the blessings of Guru Sahib.

Please pass the Blog address to anybody you know of coming in to Sikhee, hopefully with Guru Sahibs Kirpaa it might give them a slight bit of guidance.

Daas would like to take this opportunity to thank the Sangat in being so amazing, never once did the Sangat make life difficult for Daas in doing this Sevaa, the Sangat were never critical but in return showed Daas a lot of Love and inspired Daas in trying to write more articles, Daas will miss you all, please don’t let go of the breath of Naam.

A lot of questions were asked to Daas on Daas' I.D, who Daas was and where Daas was from, the only reason Daas used Gupt name was to avoid personal praise, as in reality 'I' does not exist and this is what we are all trying to kill.

If Daas has offended anyone whilst writing the articles please forgive Daas, as this was not Daas' intention. Please leave what you do not like with Daas, but please hold on tight and put into practice what you do like, please forgive Daas for any mistakes.

Daas has one request for the Sangat, please accept, Daas would like all of you to do Ardaas for Daas so that Daas is liberated in this life and never has to come back to the Human body, the only time Daas would like to come back to this Human form is if Guru Sahib sends Daas as a pure soul to do Sevaa.

ਦੇਹੁ ਸਜਣ ਅਸੀਸੜੀਆ ਜਿਉ ਹੋਵੈ ਸਾਿਹਬ ਿਸਉ ਮੇਲੁ ॥੩॥
dhaehu sujun aseesurreeaa jio hovai saahib sio mael
My friends, give me your blessings, that I may merge with my Lord and Master. 3

Shotaa Veer, Daas

Vahiguroo Jee Kaa Khalsaa Vahiguroo Jee Kee Fatehh!

Marriage

Why is marriage so important in Sikhee?

Guru Sahib has taught us to live in Grihstee (house holder life) this is the only true way one will purify this filthy mind and become pure in the eyes of Guru Sahib.

Daas has tried to explain in many previous posts why one will only become pure through keeping Grihstee Jeevan, even Bhai Gurdaas Jee gave an amazing amount of respect to one who purifies their mind whilst living in Girastee Jeevan, Bhai Sahib was not Girastee himself, but said this is the best form of living, and keeping Man-dee-Rehit, (discipline of mind), as this is the most difficult Rehit to keep.

(Bhai Gurdaas Jee Ang 6)

ਘਰਬਾਰੀ ਜੀਵਨ ਮੁਕਤਿ ਲਹਰ ਨਹੀਂ ਲਬ ਲੋਭ ਿਬਆਪੈ॥
ghurubaaree jeevun mukath lehur nehee lub lobh biaapai
The householder is liberated in life; he is not afraid of the waves of the world's ocean and fear does not enter his heart.

Only through practising Gurmat in this terrifying world Ocean will one be liberated, Guru Sahib will give the Gurmukh guidance and wisdom through Shabad in how to deal with everyday life comfortably, and also how to keep close to Guru Sahibs feet through the support of Athai Pehar Naam Abhiyaas. A Gursikh will never feel uncomfortable in any situation, as the Gurmukhs mind will be relaxed and open through Shabad, a Gurmukh will deal with every situation peacefully and lovingly, one will propose all means before drawing the Sword. (Please refer to the Saint-Soldier article). The Gurmukh becomes Pooran (pure) by accepting the will of the great Lord Vahiguroo. The Gurmukh cannot be knocked out of balance, as one deals with every situation in Sehj through Shabad.

One of the main reasons why it is so important to be Girastee and married is if one runs away from society and the world to meditate like Siddhs, Buddhs they would reach very high states of spirituality, but if they decided to return they would most definitely struggle in the World, as they have not taught their minds how to deal with worldly situations in peace with a balanced mind through Shabad, their minds would be caught up in evil thoughts, and even meditation and keeping concentration would be an up hill struggle for these people. It would take a lot longer to reach high states of spirituality in Girastee than it would running away from the world, for obvious reasons of Dhiaan (concentration) would take longer to develop, but one thing is for sure the Gurmukh develops Dhiaan slowly through Shabad but would be poised in every worldly situation.

The other reason is the Siddhs, Jatees, Tappees etc never did anything for society in terms of virtues spreading love, compassion and bringing people on to the path of God for liberation and a much more peaceful life.

ਖਾਧੀ ਖੁਣਸ ਜੋਗੀਸ਼ਰਾਂ ਗੋਸਟ ਕਰਨ ਸਭੇ ਉਠ ਆਈ॥
khaadhee khunus jogeeshuraa gosutt kurun subhae outh aaee
All the yogis getting irritated grouped together and came forward to have a debate.

ਪੁਛੇ ਜੋਗੀ ਭੰਗ੍ਰ ਨਾਥ ਤੁਹਿ ਦੁਧ ਿਵਚ ਿਕਉਂ ਕਾਂਜੀ ਪਾਈ॥
pushae jogee bhungr naath thuhi dhudh vich kio kaajee paaee
Yogi Bhangar Nath asked, (Why have you put vinegar in milk?)

ਫਿਿਟ ਆ ਚਾਟਾ ਦੁਧ ਦਾ ਿਰੜਿਕਆਂ ਮਖਣ ਹਥ ਨ ਆਈ॥
fitt aa chaattaa dhudh dhaa rirrakiaa mukhun huth n aaee
The spoiled milk cannot be churned into butter.

ਭੇਖ ਉਾਤਰ ਉਦਾਸ ਦਾ ਵਤ ਕਿਉਂ ਸੰਸਾਰੀ ਰੀਤ ਚਲਾਈ॥
bhaekh ouaathur oudhaas dhaa vuth kio sunsaaree reeth chulaaee
How have you put off yogic garb and attired yourself in a household way.

ਨਾਨਕ ਆਖੇ ਭੰਗ੍ਰਨਾਥ ਤੇਰੀ ਮਾਉ ਕੁਚੱਜੀ ਆਈ॥
naanuk aakhae bhungrunaath thaeree maao kuchuujee aaee
Said Nanak, (O Bhangar Nath, your mother-teacher is unmannerly)

ਭਾਂਡਾ ਧੋਇ ਨ ਜਾਤਿਓਨ ਭਾਇ ਕੁਚਜੇ ਫੁਲ ਸੜਾਈ॥
bhaaddaa dhoe n jaathioun bhaae kuchujae ful surraaee
She has not cleansed the innerself of your body-pot and your clumpsy thoughts have burnt your flower (of knowledge which was to become fruit).

ਹੋਇ ਅਤੀਤ ਗਿ੍ਰਹਸਤ ਤਜ ਿਫਰ ਉਨਹੂੰਕੇ ਘਰ ਮੰਗਨ ਜਾਈ॥
hoe atheeth grihusuth thuj fir ounehoonkae ghur mungun jaaee
You, while distancing and repudiating house hold life, go again to those householders for begging.

ਬਿਨ ਿਦਤੇ ਿਕਛ ਹਥ ਨ ਆਈ ॥ôú॥
bin dhithae kish huth n aaee
Except their offerings you don’t get anything.

Bhai Gurdaas Jee is saying in this Shabad, the Yogees have earned no divine wisdom according to Gurmat and virtuous living, they have given nothing in terms of wisdom and virtue to the householders, but yet they go begging to the householders for money in terms for survival, Bhai Sahib has called them selfish and unmannerly.

When the time is right a Gursikh should always prepare for marriage, this is a very tricky situation, as one is use to practicing and living by their self. A Gurmukh should not look too hard in to marriage, as one should be in loving devotion with the Lord, a Gurmukh will live in Bhaanaa (the will of God) and let be, Guru Sahib will find the right soul mate when the time is right. Thinking about marriage will stop ones development in Sikhee and unbalance the mind. One should leave this decision to Guru Sahib and practice patience.

(Ang 98)

mnu qnu sIqlu DIrju pwieAw ]
mun thun seethul dheeruj paaeiaa
My mind and body have been cooled and soothed; I have been blessed with patience and composure.

One should realize the importance of marriage, one should realize how to love, respect and accept their partners for what they are, as Guru Sahib has made everybody different. Marriage is the merging of two souls in which have been separated for many lifetimes.

Love is very important in a relationship this should not be mistaken by attachment the two are totally different. The word love means sacrifice of ones being for another. Guru Gobind Singh Jee loved all beings as one, when a Gursikh asked Guru Sahib to cover the bodies of his brave Shaheed (martyrs) sons, Guru Sahib said, have you got enough material to cover the bodies of all of my sons and daughters on the battlefield. Guru Sahib was blessed with true devotional divine love at the same time Guru Sahib was detached. One must love but learn to let go and remain detached.

(Ang 788)

ਧਨ ਪਿਰੁ ਏਿਹ ਨ ਆਖੀਅਿਨ ਬਹਿਨ ਇਕਠੇ ਹੋਇ ॥
dhun pir eaehi n aakheean behan eikuthae hoe
They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together.

ਏਕ ਜੋਤਿ ਦੁਇ ਮੂਰਤੀ ਧਨ ਿਪਰੁ ਕਹੀਐ ਸੋਇ ॥੩॥
eaek joth dhue mooruthee dhun pir keheeai soe
They alone are called husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies. 3

Dhan Guru Amardaas Jee, Guru sahib has explained the beautiful meaning of marriage in these two lines, Husband and Wife are one, one soul in two bodies, they are Sangat, they live in peace, they are one to one with each other, they will only be separated and departed through death.

Guru Sahib says in Gurbaanee two souls only come together through past deeds, these souls were made to be together in this life, they should never be separated.

Divorce is a very big problem in Western countries, the sad thing is practicing Amritdhaaree Gursikhs are getting divorced. The reason for this is Ego and negative minds. The Gursikhs who turn to divorce have never really understood the true meaning of marriage in Gurmat. A Naam Abhiyaasee Gursikh battling with their mind every second of the day would never turn to divorce.

The choice of Divorce is a 'no no' for a Gursikh no matter what the circumstance, just as the choice of being homosexual or committing suicide is not accepted in Gurmat, a Gursikh should always turn to Shabad and Gurbaanee for support stay strong and live in Bhaanaa (the divine will).

Daas understands there are many ups and downs in relationships, but the true Gurmukh always deals with them in peace and love, the true Gurmukh changes their partners negative mind in to a positive mind by not reacting negatively, we have to accept everybody is different and that it is our duty to make this relationship work, even if this means a sacrifice in personal Jeevan or Rehit for the time being. We have to remember we cannot have everything our way, as now we are two bodies one soul. It only takes one Gurmukh in a relationship to purify the relationship and live in everlasting peace, as arguments, disagreements, and negatives only come through ego and reacting.

The other thing we have to remember is our marriage ceremony has been witnessed by Guru Sahib and the Sangat through Shabad, an Ardaas has been done for everlasting commitment and blessing in this relationship. It is not for us to separate in this relationship, if anyone has the authority to divide us it is only Guru Sahib. DIVORCE IS A SIGN OF TOTAL MANMAT.

ਜਿਉ ਤਰੁਣੀ ਕਉ ਕੰਤੁ ਬਾਲਹਾ ਿਤਉ ਮੇਰੈ ਮਿਨ ਰਾਮਈਆ ॥੩॥
jio thurunee ko kunth baalehaa thio maerai man raameeaa
and the husband is dear to his wife, so is the Lord to my mind. 3

Guru Sahib explains in this Shabad, just as the Husband is dear to his Wife in this way our true Husband Lord should always be dear to our minds through loving devotion of Naam.

ਸੂਹੀ ਮਹਲਾ ੪ ॥
soohee mehulaa 4
Soohee, Fourth Mehl:

ਹਰਿ ਪਿਹਲੜੀ ਲਾਵ ਪਰਿਵਰਤੀ ਕਰਮ ਿਦ੍ਰੜਾਇਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
har pehilurree laav puraviruthee kurum dhrirraaeiaa bal raam jeeo
In the first round of the marriage ceremony, the Lord sets out His Instructions for performing the daily duties of married life.

ਬਾਣੀ ਬ੍ਰਹਮਾ ਵੇਦੁ ਧਰਮੁ ਦਿ੍ਰੜਹੁ ਪਾਪ ਤਜਾਇਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
baanee brehumaa vaedh dhurum dhrirruhu paap thujaaeiaa bal raam jeeo
Instead of the hymns of the Vedas to Brahma, embrace the righteous conduct of Dharma, and renounce sinful actions.

ਧਰਮੁ ਦਿ੍ਰੜਹੁ ਹਿਰ ਨਾਮੁ ਿਧਆਵਹੁ ਿਸਿਮ੍ਰਿਤ ਨਾਮੁ ਿਦ੍ਰੜਾਇਆ ॥
dhurum dhrirruhu har naam dhiaavuhu simrith naam dhrirraaeiaa
Meditate on the Lord's Name; embrace and enshrine the contemplative remembrance of the Naam.

ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਗੁਰੁ ਪੂਰਾ ਆਰਾਧਹੁ ਸਿਭ ਿਕਲਿਵਖ ਪਾਪ ਗਵਾਇਆ ॥
sathigur gur pooraa aaraadhuhu sabh kilavikh paap guvaaeiaa
Worship and adore the Guru, the Perfect True Guru, and all your sins shall be dispelled.

ਸਹਜ ਅਨੰਦੁ ਹੋਆ ਵਡਭਾਗੀ ਮਨਿ ਹਿਰ ਹਿਰ ਮੀਠਾ ਲਾਇਆ ॥
sehuj anundh hoaa vuddubhaagee man har har meethaa laaeiaa
By great good fortune, celestial bliss is attained, and the Lord, Har, Har, seems sweet to the mind.

ਜਨੁ ਕਹੈ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਲਾਵ ਪਹਿਲੀ ਆਰੰਭੁ ਕਾਜੁ ਰਚਾਇਆ ॥੧॥
jun kehai naanuk laav pehilee aarunbh kaaj ruchaaeiaa
Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the first round of the marriage ceremony, the marriage ceremony has begun. 1

ਹਰਿ ਦੂਜੜੀ ਲਾਵ ਸਿਤਗੁਰੁ ਪੁਰਖੁ ਿਮਲਾਇਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
har dhoojurree laav sathigur purukh milaaeiaa bal raam jeeo
In the second round of the marriage ceremony, the Lord leads you to meet the True Guru, the Primal Being.

ਨਿਰਭਉ ਭੈ ਮਨੁ ਹੋਇ ਹਉਮੈ ਮੈਲੁ ਗਵਾਇਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
nirubho bhai mun hoe houmai mail guvaaeiaa bal raam jeeo
With the Fear of God, the Fearless Lord in the mind, the filth of egotism is eradicated.

ਨਿਰਮਲੁ ਭਉ ਪਾਇਆ ਹਿਰ ਗੁਣ ਗਾਇਆ ਹਿਰ ਵੇਖੈ ਰਾਮੁ ਹਦੂਰੇ ॥
nirumul bho paaeiaa har gun gaaeiaa har vaekhai raam hudhoorae
In the Fear of God, the Immaculate Lord, sing the Glorious Praises of the Lord, and behold the Lord's Presence before you.

ਹਰਿ ਆਤਮ ਰਾਮੁ ਪਸਾਿਰਆ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਸਰਬ ਰਿਹਆ ਭਰਪੂਰੇ ॥
har aathum raam pusaariaa suaamee surub rehiaa bhurupoorae
The Lord, the Supreme Soul, is the Lord and Master of the Universe; He is pervading and permeating everywhere, fully filling all spaces.

ਅੰਤਰਿ ਬਾਹਿਰ ਹਿਰ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਏਕੋ ਿਮਿਲ ਹਿਰ ਜਨ ਮੰਗਲ ਗਾਏ ॥
anthar baahar har prubh eaeko mil har jun mungul gaaeae
Deep within, and outside as well, there is only the One Lord God. Meeting together, the humble servants of the Lord sing the songs of joy.

ਜਨ ਨਾਨਕ ਦੂਜੀ ਲਾਵ ਚਲਾਈ ਅਨਹਦ ਸਬਦ ਵਜਾਏ ॥੨॥
jun naanuk dhoojee laav chulaaee anehudh subudh vujaaeae
Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the second round of the marriage ceremony, the unstruck sound current of the Shabad resounds. 2

ਹਰਿ ਤੀਜੜੀ ਲਾਵ ਮਿਨ ਚਾਉ ਭਇਆ ਬੈਰਾਗੀਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
har theejurree laav man chaao bhaeiaa bairaageeaa bal raam jeeo
In the third round of the marriage ceremony, the mind is filled with Divine Love.

ਸੰਤ ਜਨਾ ਹਰਿ ਮੇਲੁ ਹਿਰ ਪਾਇਆ ਵਡਭਾਗੀਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
sunth junaa har mael har paaeiaa vuddubhaageeaa bal raam jeeo
Meeting with the humble Saints of the Lord, I have found the Lord, by great good fortune.

ਨਿਰਮਲੁ ਹਿਰ ਪਾਇਆ ਹਿਰ ਗੁਣ ਗਾਇਆ ਮੁਿਖ ਬੋਲੀ ਹਿਰ ਬਾਣੀ ॥
nirumul har paaeiaa har gun gaaeiaa mukh bolee har baanee
I have found the Immaculate Lord, and I sing the Glorious Praises of the Lord. I speak the Word of the Lord's Bani.

ਸੰਤ ਜਨਾ ਵਡਭਾਗੀ ਪਾਇਆ ਹਰਿ ਕਥੀਐ ਅਕਥ ਕਹਾਣੀ ॥
sunth junaa vuddubhaagee paaeiaa har kutheeai akuth kehaanee
By great good fortune, I have found the humble Saints, and I speak the Unspoken Speech of the Lord.

ਹਿਰਦੈ ਹਿਰ ਹਿਰ ਹਿਰ ਧੁਿਨ ਉਪਜੀ ਹਿਰ ਜਪੀਐ ਮਸਤਿਕ ਭਾਗੁ ਜੀਉ ॥
hirudhai har har har dhun oupujee har jupeeai musuthak bhaag jeeo
The Name of the Lord, Har, Har, Har, vibrates and resounds within my heart; meditating on the Lord, I have realized the destiny inscribed upon my forehead.

ਜਨੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਬੋਲੇ ਤੀਜੀ ਲਾਵੈ ਹਰਿ ਉਪਜੈ ਮਿਨ ਬੈਰਾਗੁ ਜੀਉ ॥੩॥
jun naanuk bolae theejee laavai har oupujai man bairaag jeeo
Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the third round of the marriage ceremony, the mind is filled with Divine Love for the Lord. 3

ਹਰਿ ਚਉਥੜੀ ਲਾਵ ਮਿਨ ਸਹਜੁ ਭਇਆ ਹਿਰ ਪਾਇਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
har chouthurree laav man sehuj bhaeiaa har paaeiaa bal raam jeeo
In the fourth round of the marriage ceremony, my mind has become peaceful; I have found the Lord.

ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਿਮਿਲਆ ਸੁਭਾਇ ਹਿਰ ਮਿਨ ਤਿਨ ਮੀਠਾ ਲਾਇਆ ਬਿਲ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥
gurumukh miliaa subhaae har man than meethaa laaeiaa bal raam jeeo
As Gurmukh, I have met Him, with intuitive ease; the Lord seems so sweet to my mind and body.

ਹਰਿ ਮੀਠਾ ਲਾਇਆ ਮੇਰੇ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਭਾਇਆ ਅਨਿਦਨੁ ਹਿਰ ਿਲਵ ਲਾਈ ॥
har meethaa laaeiaa maerae prubh bhaaeiaa anadhin har liv laaee
The Lord seems so sweet; I am pleasing to my God. Night and day, I lovingly focus my consciousness on the Lord.

ਮਨ ਚਿੰਿਦਆ ਫਲੁ ਪਾਇਆ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਹਿਰ ਨਾਿਮ ਵਜੀ ਵਾਧਾਈ ॥
mun chindhiaa ful paaeiaa suaamee har naam vujee vaadhaaee
I have obtained my Lord and Master, the fruit of my mind's desires. The Lord's Name resounds and resonates.

ਹਰਿ ਪ੍ਰਿਭ ਠਾਕੁਿਰ ਕਾਜੁ ਰਚਾਇਆ ਧਨ ਿਹਰਦੈ ਨਾਿਮ ਿਵਗਾਸੀ ॥
har prabh thaakur kaaj ruchaaeiaa dhun hirudhai naam vigaasee
The Lord God, my Lord and Master, blends with His bride, and her heart blossoms forth in the Naam.

ਜਨੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਬੋਲੇ ਚਉਥੀ ਲਾਵੈ ਹਰਿ ਪਾਇਆ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਅਿਵਨਾਸੀ ॥੪॥੨॥
jun naanuk bolae chouthee laavai har paaeiaa prubh avinaasee
Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the fourth round of the marriage ceremony, we have found the Eternal Lord God. 42

Guru Raamdaas Jee explains in the Laavaa(n) above, the four stages of the wedding ceremony, in how a Gursikhs soul is united to the supreme soul through the devotional love of Naam. These verses are read out to us and sung to us in the form of Keertan whilst we perform the ceremony of marriage. Guru Sahib is uniting two souls they cannot be separated by any force in the World including our negative minds.

Please forgive Daas for any mistakes, as it was not Daas' intention to hurt any Soul.

The message Daas was trying to get across is divorce is a not right in Gurmat, and please think a thousand times before taking this step.

It only takes one Gurmukh to change the face of a relationship and this will only be accomplished by the teachings of Gurbaanee and Athai Pehar Naam Abhiyaas.

~~~~Next weeks article: "Without Naam"~~~~